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 May 12, 2020

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“For the two of us, home isn't a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.”
― Stephanie Perkins, Anna and the French Kiss

 

 

I thought this quote on relationships was so relevant to our shared experience in all times, not just during the Covid-saturated days of today.

 

“For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It is a person…” I can only imagine how you feel- those of you who have lost a spouse or a family member to death who inhabited the same space with you. Really though, I’m not even certain I can imagine.

 

We all have rituals which define the pace of our days. Rituals seem to string together throughout a day to form a whole of experience. As someone “with” another we awaken and at some point soon after, we offer a morning greeting. We fulfill little tasks to start the day and then continue on, checking off expectation after expectation. It’s the things that we do that can be transplanted if we are staying in a hotel or elsewhere that define who we are as more-than-one. And then it can be lost. We then begin to question why this space is so dear and sacred to us if the other person is not there to complete the dance.

 

I’m sorry if anything I write here brings tears, but I pray that the tears can be delicate and sweet, warm and grateful- for the home our partners used to be to us.

 

For those still in a partnership, it’s time to celebrate if you haven’t already done so. Move out of the possible attitude that the other will always be there, or, that this has all become so very plodding. Your partner- IS HOME! Right?! All that they do and don’t do, all that they speak and at times annoy you with, are your home.

 

And, if home now has more than 2 ,or, none at all- invite God once again into the space. Not so much that God will feel welcomed, but to set in your heart and mind’s eye that you have consciously opened the door to create home once again.

 

Wherever I go, there is my home- you make my home.

 

Rev. Ken